What is Co-Con?

Modes:  Everyone has modes.  Work mode, mother mode, wife mode, shopping mode, driving mode.  That is exactly like personalities.  To achieve co-consciousness, you must learn how to be all modes at once, at will.  What co-con means is everyone is aware of everyone else inside, and cna check up on them any time they want.  You have easy communication, usually taking the form of telepathy because after all, you do share the same brain.  It also means you don't have any blank periods, or "blackouts", because you'll know what everyone is doing when they have time out.  You will also decide and be able to control who comes out and when.  For example, picture working at home.  You are in work mode, but you also have to be in mother or father mode.  You learn to keep your attention 50% on each task, or, switch between each mode easily.  You can be typing away and completely focused on the task at hand, but then a child enters the room.  You soften yourself, take a deep breath, and turn your attention to your child, instantly in mother/father mode.  Being multiple in the beginning is usually like having modes that are completely isolated from each other, and VERY intense on their jobs, firmly beleive that their job/experiences is the whole of existence and might not even be aware of each other.

The First Step

Clearly, the first step is to make each inside person know about the others.  Write or type out a book and leave it out all the time with words in super-big type: I MUST PICK THIS UP AND READ THIS NOW NO MATTER WHAT!  That'll get the newcomer's attention.  the contents of the book will be an explaination of first, your diagnosis; second: the story of your life; third, what responsibilities you have to take care of, like taking medicine, going to school or work (include an address, record your shifts, your co-workers names and written description of likeness, describe your duties and state that if the person front cannot do those duties, CALL IN SICK!), if there's kids to take care of, and warn them about your SO if you have one; fourth, give the name, address, and phone number of your therapist (or you cna make that number three, your choice); fifth, ask them to write in their name, age, any information they can share about who they are and what they do, and assure them AT THE SAME TIME that they will be kept safe and secret, that you'll only tell your therapist and your SO if your SO is aware of this and is comfortable with it, and that you won't punish them for existing, you appreciate them and all they've done, and that you hope  you can all work together and get to know each other and live in love and harmony.  Then at the back include a list of system rules that they can read when they've gotten over their initial shock, and ask that they agree and will have lots of freedom and do whatever they want (except break those rules and spend all the money) if they just sign their name at the bottom as evidence that they read it and will go along with the rules.  I wouldn't recommend sharing a list of concequenses with anyone, just make a list and leave it with your therapist, and if someone breaks a rule you can talk about it with your therapist and work out an arrangement.  As each new person comes forth, fill in a system map and identify each person's past role and work out who can act as guardians/protectors and all other kinds of roles.  Not every insider makes a good wife or mother.  Some systems can get along great with the traditional role names of host, protector, inner-self-helper, etc. but be careful you don't force someone into a role that you perceive them as.  This can lead to chaos and confusion and lack of trust, not to mention stress.  Also remember that some can have multiple roles, and there can be many people that can fill common roles.  It's not a rule that there be just one host, as an example.  Create a team where everyone's needs, strengths, and aspirations are addressed.  Kids can be inner-self-helpers and protectors (part-time, not full-time), but not hosts.

Second Step

The second step to co-con is to hold more than one personality front at a time.  You do so similarly described in the first paragraph in the model of the working mother/father.  Bring forth your protector and host, and talk to each other, while giving your protector the sounds that you hear, the sights that you see, the sensations of your chair.  Keep sharing, bringing your protector closer and closer to front, until you can stay totally front, but let your protector move one finger.  No need to fear, there is no losing control, you can stop the finger if you wish.  Try it, you stiil have the power to control your body, and take control back into your power at any time.  Co-con is a letting-go process.  It’s about trust.  That’s why you practice with your protector.

You're Already Co-Con

You already are co-con, but don’t realize it.  How does your protector know when you need protection?  He or she could sense it: in other words, was aware of front.  How did certain insiders know it was time to take control for certain kinds of situations?  They were paying attention.  Not 100% attention, but enough to know when to come.  Biologically, you are sharing the same brain, so this shouldn't be very surprising.  I'll explain more of what's actually going on psychologically and a bit biologically; after all, knowledge will empower you and you will understand the concept and be able to utilize it much more powerfully.

The Science of Multiple

You can see where there is a slight thread of co-con already built in.  How does that, and blackouts, work?  When there is lack of awareness of what goes on in front when you are inside and thinking about it, that's complete blocking behavior.  You are thinking logical thought, which can only occur in consciousness.  It takes effort to block out sight, sound, touch, and all awareness of your environment.  On the other hand, if someone is deep inside, they are in the subconsciousness, which is not capable of much logical thought.  That is where blackouts happen.  One insider takes over front, which is consciousness, and whoever was there before falls unconscious.  The process is safe and painless, but does cause lots of problems functioning and maintaining responsibilities.  If there is no awareness of each other, then there can be lots of social awkwardness or even damage.  You see this in the books like Sybil and The Three Faces of Eve.  The sub-con is where you have your inner environment.  As I explained in my system map, my inner world is not like an alternate reality, it is a complete imagination landscape, even if it was constructed unconsciously.  That in itself is a wonderful miracle, surely a divine blessing.  It's not real like out here in the real world, but it's real as in a real place that typically stays the same in your mind.  You can consciously go there and do things and talk with people, but it takes some effort or practice to maintain the delicate dissociative state and still be in control of front at the same time.  If you are going in and want to accomplish something important, like conferencing with the others, make plans, or whatever, make sure you set aside some time for meditation.  You have to have no pending appointments for quite some time; to become completely aware again and get your job inside accomplished, set aside at least 4 hours, preferably more.

Beware! You are hypnotized right now!

You are not going to want to hear this, but you really need to know.  You are in a constant state of hypnosis.  No, that doesn't mean you have no free will or can be controlled by anyone, or that anyone hypnotized you.  Dissociation is a trance state, and if you are multiple, you are partially, and in varying degrees over time, in a trance state.  Sometimes you're really under, sometimes it's like you're not at all.  Trance is hypnosis is meditation, trance is trance is trance.  It's all the same.  You have one foot in your subconsciousness at all times.  When you have blackouts, you dove in headfirst.  When you are co-con, you will have greater unity, control, understanding, and simply everything will be better.  You will be a bit more in a trance state at all times, but it will stay steadier.  If you are the type that has no communication at this stage and can have blackouts, you swing wider and more deeply on both sides of the spectrum.  You have no control over how or when this happens, or who comes front or what they do, either.  Now as for being in a trance state: one negative effect of this is greater gullibility.  The less constant access to your logic center, your consciousness, the less reality checks you have.  It is much more easy to be actually hypnotized, so feel free to let your therapist know this and you can decide if hypnotherapy is right for you.  Remember, even in a deep hypnotic trance, no one can be forced to do what they do not want to do.  They can, and do, say no.  I'm a casual hypnotist and have hypnotized some friends and classmates that volunteered, and I've had a couple people tell me no, that they didn't want to do something I suggested, even when it wasn't dangerous or morally objectionable- they simply weren't interested.  It is not a lack of ability or knowledge on my part that "gave" them that power to choose, it's simply always there, so don't fear a professional or expert hypnotist could have the power to overpower your free will. Note that some individuals have had trance/drugged states incorporated in their abuse experiences and have been made to do or experience things they didn't want.  This is not by the power of trance that forced these individuals to experience these things and comply- it was the brute force, violence, and threats of the abuser that did it.  Other people have been made to do much worse things against their will without the aid of trance or drugs, they were simply forced to comply against their will with those bullying tactics.  Typically the use of trance is combined with drugs (which includes alcohol) in ritual or ceremony settings, and only serves to make the victim feel delirious, dissociated, and it takes the fight out of the person.  It also makes the victim, upon waking the next day, unsure of the validity of his or her memories of the event.  It makes a legal case a lot harder if the perpetrators were brought to justice if even the victim isn't sure of what happened or what was real.  Trance by itself won't work to cause this.  Examples to consider are date-rape drugs (that makes the victim senseless) and the use of rythmic music and massive drug abuse in raves. By the way, don't tell anyone at all except your therapist about your trance states or anything I revealed here.  Not only will normal people be weirded out and not understand, but they might think of you more as a schizophrenic that can't control your actions, or has lost personal accountability (people have used sleepwalking, which is a trance state, as a defense in murder trials).  And predators may feel you are easy prey.  Don't send out those vibes.

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